Your Value is a Non-Negotiable

Let me start by saying this: your value is not up for debate. If you’ve ever hesitated to ask for what you need, to voice your ideas, or to set a boundary, this message is for you—especially my girlies who struggle to take up space unapologetically.

I’ve been there. I know what it feels like to question your worth, to wonder if you’re asking for too much, or if you should just keep quiet to avoid conflict. But here’s the truth I’m learning in real time: standing in your worth is one of the most powerful things you’ll ever do. It’s not easy, but it’s necessary.

Why Intrinsic Value Matters

Your intrinsic value isn’t tied to how much you do, how perfect you are, or how others perceive you. It’s in who you are—your heart, your voice, your presence. But sometimes, especially as women, we’re conditioned to believe we need to prove ourselves, to justify our needs, or to minimize our impact to make others comfortable.

I used to think being “low maintenance” or “easygoing” made me more likable. I didn’t realize that by staying quiet, I was letting others decide what I deserved. It’s a painful cycle, but breaking it starts with recognizing your worth—and refusing to let anyone, including yourself, diminish it.

Finding My Voice

I’ll be honest: I’m still figuring this out. There are days when speaking up feels natural, and there are days when it feels like the hardest thing in the world. But every time I choose to use my voice, I’m reminded that my needs, my opinions, and my boundaries matter.

For example, I’ve had moments at work where I felt like my contributions were overlooked. In the past, I would’ve just swallowed that frustration and kept working harder. But now, I’m learning to address those moments head-on, saying things like, “Hey, I need to talk about how this impacts me.” It’s uncomfortable, but it’s freeing.

The same goes for my personal life. I’ve had to learn that relationships—whether romantic, platonic, or familial—shouldn’t require me to shrink myself. If I have to dim my light to make someone else shine, that’s not love; that’s imbalance.

For My Girlies Who Stay Quiet

If you’ve ever struggled to speak up, I want you to know that I see you. I see how hard it is to put your needs into words, to assert yourself, or to ask for what you know you deserve. And I want to tell you this: your voice is your power.

Start small if you need to. Maybe it’s saying “no” to something that doesn’t serve you. Maybe it’s expressing your feelings in a safe space. Maybe it’s reminding yourself daily that you deserve to take up space.

You don’t have to be loud to be heard. But you do have to believe that what you have to say matters—because it does.

Boundaries Are Strength, Not Shame

Here’s another thing I’ve learned: setting boundaries doesn’t mean you’re being difficult. It means you’re protecting your peace. Whether it’s in your career, friendships, or family, boundaries are a way of saying, “I love myself enough to honor my needs.”

I’ve set boundaries with people I love deeply, and while it’s been hard, it’s also been healing. Some people will respect your boundaries immediately; others may push back. But the more you practice standing firm, the more aligned your life will feel.

A Fix for You

Here’s the fix, sis: you are enough just as you are. You don’t need to prove your worth to anyone, and you don’t have to justify why you deserve respect, love, or space.

To the woman sitting in a meeting, afraid to share her idea: Speak up. Your perspective matters.

To the girl in a relationship, wondering if it’s okay to ask for more: It is. Love is reciprocal.

To the friend who always gives but rarely receives: Set the boundary. The right people will honor it.

And if you’re struggling to believe any of this, let me remind you: your value is infinite, non-negotiable, and beautifully yours.

Let’s Walk This Together

I’m not here to tell you I’ve got it all figured out. I don’t. But I’m committed to walking this path alongside you. Together, we’ll grow, we’ll learn, and we’ll remind each other that we’re worth it.

So take up space, sis. Use your voice. Set the boundary. Say “no” when you need to. Walk away if it doesn’t serve you. Your intrinsic value isn’t something to bargain with—it’s the foundation of who you are.

With love, strength, and a whole lot of sisterly support,

Dominique

Your big sis at The Sister Fix